Being Busy at Home

Jennifer hung up the kitchen towel, took one last look at the kitchen and smiled as she had completed the task of doing the dishes after dinner. She walked out to the living room and notices the children have failed to pick up their toys after dinner as they were told.  She then remembered that there was laundry needing to be folded, lunches to get ready for her children and clothes to be ironed for her husband the next day. Jennifer sighed as she continued on working to complete these various tasks. She wondered if she was ever going to get to sit down that night and finally have her quiet time with the Lord like she was hoping.  The battle in her mind was now beginning as she had a choice to serve her family happily or complain about the work to be done.

* What are some biblical principles Jennifer can remember as she fights to maintain a good attitude while working at home?

* How can women like Jennifer strive to maintain the balance of housework and time spent in God’s Word?

Real Life~Real Answers: Unfair Treatment

Your husband always wants to visit his family at holidays, but always argues with you when you ask about visiting your own family for Christmas or Thanksgiving.  He has never seemed to take interest in getting to know your family and it has been 2 years since you have been able to see your family who lives out of state.

*What must you “think” in order to maintain a godly perspective on this situation?

*How can you be submissive to your husband’s wishes while appealing to him about your desires?

*How can you pray for you and your husband in this situation?

Real Life~Real Answers: Marriage Problems

Your best friend calls you from out of state with a desperate voice saying, “I want out! I want out of this marriage! I can’t take it any more! How can God expect me to live with this man who makes me so angry and doesn’t love me? Don’t I deserve to be happy?”  You have known they were having problems resolving conflict, but didn’t realize that it was this bad.

*What Biblical advice should you share with your friend that would help her view this situation in a godly way?

*What could you challenge her to do to be the godly wife God wants her to be?




Recommended Books:
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace

Real Life~Real Answers

Idols of the Heart

Bonnie calls you just sobbing, “It was negative, again!!!” You quickly realize she is talking about the results of the pregnancy test you knew she was excited to take.  You sigh and quickly pray that God would give you the right words to comfort your friend. Bonnie and her husband have been trying to have a baby for quite some time. Bonnie so desperately wants a baby. She stares at the other young women in church who have children and can’t wait until she can have a child of her own. When you talk with her, ALL she talks about is getting pregnant. She has ideas for names, for the nursery, how to raise the child. She even has started picking up maternity clothes and things for the baby. Her husband is supportive but is growing weary of the constant emotion involved. Bonnie is your best friend and you are grieved to see her so disappointed every month.

*As Bonnie’s friend, how should you answer this desperate phone call?

*What is unbiblical about Bonnie’s thinking?

*What must Bonnie focus on more than having a baby?

Real Life ~ Real Answers

A Christian Hypocrite

Susan (who is saved, attends church faithfully and teaches SS) looks forward to her daughter’s basketball season starting. Her daughter has really improved in her ability to play the game since last year and Susan thinks her daughter will get a lot of playing time this year. The first game day arrives and as Susan anxiously waits for the game to start in the stands she cheers for her daughter during the warm-up time. Finally it’s time to start and as the starting line up is announced, her daughter is not one of the girls who is starting. Susan wonders why and by the time the first 5 minutes of the game has passed she becomes angry. She moves from her spot in the bleachers to sit closer to the coach and begins yelling for him to put her daughter in and goes on and on about how good of a player she is. The coach ignores Susan during game play, but during a time-out takes a minute to ask her kindly if she would not yell at him like that during the game. Susan becomes furious and begins to rant and rave over the fact that her daughter is not playing.

How well is Susan demonstrating what she believes?

What is she showing by her words and actions?

How should Susan respond? What would be a godly response in this situation?

Real Life ~ Real Answers

Reputation vs. Godliness

Tanya is extremely tough on her children. She expects them to behave perfectly when they are in public. She disciplines the children harshly when they embarrass her. She and her husband do not want other people, especially their church friends, to see them as inadequate parents. Tanya standing before others is pretty important to her. She wants to avoid giving people reasons to question her parenting abilities. Unfortunately when Tanya is home with the kids she does little to encourage them in spiritual things.

What is driving Tanya as she raises her children?

What does Tanya need to change to become a more godly mother to her children?

Back to our study!

We took a break the last several sessions to talk with Heather Ormiston about her ministry. We hope you enjoyed and were encouraged through those sessions. Today we get back on track with our study and will continue on in 1 John 4:1-6. Over the next 4 days, we will talk about "false prophets" that are in our lives. What are they? How can I protect myself against them? We will share 3 principles to help you in this: 1) Choose your teachers carefully, 2) Listen with discernment, 3) Take responsibility for what you believe. How are you doing being "on guard"?

Distinguishing Truth from Error

Today we ask the question, "How can we distinguish truth from error in spiritual matters?" from 1 John 4:2-3. As a Christian living in this world, we must be able to know what is truth and what is false in order to live a God-honoring life. How do I know what is right and wrong? Over the next 3 sessions, we will seek to answer this question and give practical ideas on how to know the truth. A few things we will mention: 1) Find out what God's Word says, 2) Seek wise counsel, 3) Ask God for wisdom. As you listen and study along with us, what are your thoughts? How do YOU find out what is truth and what is error? Please share!

1 John 4 - An overview

As we begin our study now in chapter 4 of 1 John, we give a brief overview of the first section of verses 1-6. As we study this section of Scripture, keep in mind that the word "spirit" refers to ideas and philosophies of the false prophets that we in the midst of this church. The believers in this church we being bombarded by these false teachings. Therefore, John gave instruction to test the spirits to know whether the teaching was from God or not. So we also ask, how we are to test the spirits. The primary means of knowing whether a teaching comes from God depends on whether or not one believes in the diety of Christ. Many religions today believe that Christ was a real person, but deny His deity. We ought to recognize this teaching as false and hold fast to what we know is true.

Outward Beauty, continued....

Over the last couple of days we shared many verses regarding beauty. If you missed the program or would like the verses - the audio archives and study notes are located on the right of our blog. We discussed today some practical tips on how to be sure we are staying focused on God's beauty as well as modesty. Modesty is a difficult thing to teach to our daughters or other young women we have influence over, yet it is such an important principle to teach. We believe that the biblical principles we gave concerning beauty will help as well when discussing modesty with your daughter, granddaughter or other woman you are encouraging. What are some practical tips to help be sure you are modest? Please share your thoughts with us here by clicking on "comment" under this blog post.

Outward Beauty

Our last topic for discussion under the section of "desires of the eyes" in 1 John 2:16 is outward beauty. There are many principles in Scripture regarding beauty and what is beautiful in God's sight. We asked a question today - is there a Scripture verse that tells us what to physically wear? We couldn't find any, but we know that Scripture tells us to "wear" godly qualities. We hope that through the next couple of days that we can give you some good biblical principles to help you think biblically about your outward beauty.

Anger

The blessing of God's Word is that it has much to say regarding the desires of the flesh. We are so thankful for all God has given to us - that He doesn't leave us hanging as to how to live a godly life. In Scripture we find His answers to our sinful behavior. Praise God! We hope that through sharing of verses that you will see that answers are found in His Word and that you will take advantage of seeking these answers out. Again, Scripture has much to say about anger. We've shared many verses regarding this - do you have any to add? Ask yourself - what is your trigger to anger and how can you prepare your mind to avoid getting angry?

Jealousy

Second on our list of "desires of the flesh" is jealousy. Again, Scripture has much to say regarding this topic. We know that there are always more verses we could share and so we hope that you will dive into Scripture to find out more for yourself. The jealousy we are discussing is the sinful jealousy that our fallen sinful nature has. There are many consequences for jealousy. How do we combat jealousy? What are some practical guidelines?

Gluttony, continued...

As we wrap up the topic of gluttony today we discussed some practical guidelines of ways to help ourselves and others stay in control. These included: 1) Being accountable to someone, 2) Purchase healthy items, 3) Get rid of junk food if you cannot exercise self-control, 4) Keeping a journal, 5) Watching portion sizes, especially at restaurants, 6) Setting Captives Free - http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/. Do you have any other practical suggestions?

Gluttony

As we dive into the topic of gluttony we see that Scripture has much to say regarding this topic. We know that the wicked are addicted to it (Phil. 3:19), it is forbidden (Prov. 23:1-3), it leads to poverty and destruction (Prov. 23:19-21). We give many excuses for gluttony and we must see that our solution to this problem is the Biblical way. We need to keep the right perspective (1 Cor. 10:31 and exercise control (Prov. 25:16, Gal. 5:22-26). We shared many verses regarding this topic. What are some others that have helped you to think biblically regarding this topic?

Biblical Thinking

Here is the "Biblical Thought Process for Dealing with the Flesh" that we gave today on the program. If you wish to print this - you can find a copy of this list in our online study guide located on the right of the blog. We hope that this tool will help you as you strive to think biblically. 1. Ephesians 2:3 – What is controlling me? Passions of flesh or Christ? 2. Galatians 5:16 – Am I walking by the Spirit? 3. Romans 7:18 – Who am I depending on? Myself or Christ? 4. Romans 13:14 – Make no provision for the flesh. 5. Galatians 5:17 – Whose side am I on? The flesh or Spirit? 6. Galatians 5:24 – Do I die to fleshly desires? Do I have a plan? 7. 1 John 2:16 – Do my choices reflect God or the world?